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Once you decide that men are closet douchebags, this mindset will inform your interactions with them.
How would you feel if the men you were dating approached you with cynicism and disdain and made you jump through hoops before they'd have sex with you?
That guy…one closer to your values, well, he takes his time, too. He might think you expect a shirtless pic right at the beginning!
He was "transparent" and "emotionally available" and "looking for a life partner." He was also a master manipulator who conned me into thinking he loved me when he was only interested in having sex on his schedule, and sending me videos of himself masturbating multiple times a day. If it's okay to talk about your job, your boat, your dog, and your kids, why then, can't you talk about sex?
Since I've become intentionally sexually transparent in my dating profile, I haven't met any douchebags. Men like my profile because they know where they stand. My marriage ended for many reasons, but sexual incompatibility was at the top of the list. If you want to write a sexually transparent profile, go for it.
This kind of reductionist thinking is horribly unfair to both sexes and, IMHO, is one reason men and women don't trust each other.
Women are socialized to believe that men are jerks and men resent women scrutinizing them for covert jerkiness.
The last thing I want, at 51, is another relationship in which I can't be myself sexually -- or to spend time with someone hoping that the sex will get better, then being disappointed when it doesn't. If a grown man is going to lose respect for me because I'm transparent about sex, then he isn't someone I want to be with anyway. The guy (or guys) you're meant to be with will appreciate it and you don't need to be concerned about the other ones anyway.